Many years ago, my friend Matt Brower introduced me to a concept that has stayed with me ever since. I’ve written about it before, but those words have become digital ash in some misplaced digital urn. The idea is simple yet profound: we’re not always ready to decide if we like something. This is especially true for music. Matt’s rule is this:

> Listen to a song three times before deciding if you like it.

At first glance, it seems straightforward, even obvious. But think about how often we dismiss songs—sometimes within the first few seconds—without giving them the respect of three full listens. Now, reflect on some of the songs you love. Chances are, some of them didn’t grab you right away. Imagine how much joy you might have missed out on if you hadn’t given them another chance!

This rule isn’t just about music—it’s a broader lesson in patience and openness. Whether it’s art, people, or experiences, don’t be so quick to write off their value. Hold off on judgment until you’re certain, or better yet, don’t judge at all. Instead, let yourself enjoy what’s in front of you.

After all, the best things in life often reveal their beauty over time.